Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Dissin' your girls

Today, I got an email from an old high school friend. Actually, I got several emails from her. Apparently, everyone wants a piece of me this week! She and I aren't really close, but would talk every month or so, maybe get together for dinner every once in a while. We went to a hockey game sometime this winter and I think that was the last time I saw her. I even called her once or twice to catch up, but never heard back.

This fall she had found a new boyfriend and that's why I wasn't hearing from her as often as I used to. The finding a boyfriend -dropping off the face of the earth/losing a boyfriend -back to being your best friend pattern has been ongoing with her since high school. She even admitted it: "...makes me miss my chickie friends even more." But, when your friends are only your friends when you are single, why would we rally to your side when you no longer have a boy?

She was nowhere around when BB broke up with me and I couldn't go for more than 15 minutes without tears rolling down my face. But, lucky for me, I don't forsake my girlfriends when I find a new man. As a result, my friends were banging down my door to come to my rescue (thank you friends. Thank you, thank you, thank you). Ok, so maybe it was easier for me not to forsake my friends last time due to the fact that BB worked 100 hours a week and I hardly ever saw him... But, the fact remains. Girls, don't diss your girlfriends for a boy. That boy is bound to break your heart sooner or later and if you don't retain a strong network of friends, you are going to have nobody to help you get through it.

So, although I am sad for her, I am a bit annoyed that she is reaching out to me in her time of sadness. I have little incentive to go out of my way to help her cope, because in a couple months, she'll drop off the face of the planet again.

Boyfriends will come and go, but I'm gonna make sure my friends are going to be there forever (except the annoying ones. That's by choice though). Think about this: even if we manage to keep a man for a few decades or so, women live longer than men,. So when he kicks the bucket, we are going to need our old, decrepid girlfriends to come to our rescue. I've even started planning for this - we are talking about going in together on on a big fancy beach house, with a couple live-in nurses. Want in? No boys allowed.

3 comments:

elena said...

We would have still been there for you even if you had completely ignored us. Play nice with your friends Suzy Q....

Katy said...

I'd like to think that I'm no longer "that girl" like I was in high school and college. And, even though I used to drop y'all like hotcakes when Pat was coming into town for a weekend, I never feel the need to justify girl time w/ him (and if I had ever had to it would have been bad mojo). Anywho, I'm game for a big fancy girls only beach house for us when we get older and crochety-er. More than we are now.....

Katy said...

My guess is that she was never a really close friend to begin with, otherwise you'd forgive her retarded boy issues and move on. But...I will say, dissin your girls for a boy (unless its b/c he's in the navy and you only see him once a month) is retarded. I'm game for a girls only beach house when we're all older and bitchier than we already are.