I now know why a guy would not respond to your email, then call three times without leaving a message. He's taking a pass. Which is pretty funny, since the guy has the theme song to the Price Is Right as the music you hear when you call.
So, I was on the phone with my grandmother when he called for the third time. (Side story: grandma is on the brink of death and completely reliant on oxygen to stay alive - the power went out at her house. This is a big problem when your oxygen machine runs on electricity. She got her backup tank and was ok when I spoke to her. Please remind me of this story next time I want a drag off your cigarette). No message was left, so I called back. I was a bit tired of this crap.
So this time, I leave a message. He calls back and I answer the phone. We have nicey nicey chat for a little while, but I gotta tell ya, it was a bit forced. I struggled to find something to say. So, at one point, I said that I had to get moving to finish some chores, and would he like to go out again. There, see, who is the girl with the cajones?! ME.
I swear, this was his response. "I wanted to talk to you about that. I think I'm going to pass. I'd like to pursue other matches." Please. That's what you tell people on eharmony when you are totally grossed out by their picture, job, or personality so you don't actually have to meet them. But this is what got me. He said that I have too much energy for him and he wouldn't be able to keep up. This is a guy who built a deck last weekend, while I laid on the floor watching Gossip Girl (a truly horrible show, btw). But it confirms something that I have suspected all along: boys are intimidated by me.
More than one guy I have dated has told me that I make them feel bad about themselves - not because of my witty put-downs, but because of the way I lead my life. Having hobbies, leaving the house, working on political campaigns, being on the civic association and running my face into rocks makes guys who sit on the couch all day and do nothing but work, eat and sleep feel inadequate. Apparently, its a problem for the male ego when the girl is out carpe diem-ing.
He made me sad. Not because I liked him all that much , although he did seem fun, but because he rejected me (also because I wasted 20 minutes on the phone with him when I could have been vacuuming). He met me, had fun with me, bought me dinner, then decided to pass. This is not what I need to rebound after BB. I need a cute fun guy to fawn all over me. 2008 was supposed to be this great year, but so far, all I've gotten is rejection and a big fat black eye.
I've learned my lesson though. Next time I go out and there is a good chance a boy is buying, I'm not ordering the half price pizza. If you want to reject me, you gotta pay full price.