The last time I truly enjoyed and followed one of these shows was something like five years ago when Fox rolled out Joe Millionaire. God, I loved that show. I was still getting used to being single and having my house to myself - I could come home, eat a whole pint of Ben and Jerry's, drink as much wine as I wanted to and watch the awfullest TV shows ever made without someone making comments or grabbing the remote away to turn on Junkyard Wars. Joe Millionaire rocked - that stupid big plumber guy and all those horrible girls... I so wish they would do it again.
The Bachelor? I hate. I hate the women who would quit their jobs for a chance to meet, and compete, for the love of this dude they think they know because they saw his heart get broken on national TV. I hate the women who would give up their kids for six weeks for the chance to marry a tv personality and move across the country, to dismal rainy Seattle. I hated the glittery, boobs-hanging-out dresses, and oh my god, the makeup. I can't believe he kept some of them around - on tv it was bad enough, but in person, they must have looked like circus clowns.
But, what I hate most of all is how they play up the fact that the new Bachelor, Jason, is a "single dad." Its everywhere. "Jason is the first Bachelor who is a single dad!" "Jason is a single-dad. His kid Ty is the most important thing to him" (Really, looks to me like taking six weeks off and getting laid is the most important thing to him). And the women "He's so cute! And a dad too!" "I love that he loves his son so much..."
When I first heard about the new Bachelor, I assumed his former wife was dead because it sure seemed like he was a full-time single dad. Oops. Not so much. Guess what folks? The Bachelor has an ex-wife that he shares custody with! Ever hear that poor woman mentioned? Nope. You know why Jason the Bachelor is so "hot" and has time to go to the gym, get buff and wax his back (there is no way his back is that hairless on its own)? Cuz the guy likely gets to see his kid every other weekend and one night during the week.
Being a "single-dad" is a hobby to this guy, and most other single dads who share custody. 4 days a month they have their kid, and 4 evenings. I spend more time than that mowing my yard. It has been my experience that Mom still is the one holding down the fort, mom still has to take off work when kid gets sick, mom makes all the arrangements for soccer and kid karate, mom handles discipline problems, mom handles school problems, mom handles doctors appointments, mom packs the bags for when kid stays the weekend at dad's...
Being a single-dad is EASY! All the work is done for you. Its more like babysitting than parenting. When I used to babysit, the kids would already have taken their showers, be in their pajamas and specific instructions were left. Oh, and there was always good junk food, but that's slightly off topic. Same goes for dad-night and dad weekends. Specific instructions are given. Clothes are laid out. The arrangements are made - all you have to do is have them back home in time.
Don't get your panties all in a twist guys. I know that there are lots of divorced dads who wish they had more time with their kids. And I know that there are divorced dads out there who have full custody who sacrifice to keep their kids. What I am upset about is how Jason the Bachelor is made out to be a hero because he is a part-time dad. He's not a hero. He's just a guy that stays at home with his kid every other Saturday night.
Jason's ex-wife? I feel for you lady, and I'm on your side.