Sunday, October 4, 2009

The Big Bucket of Suck Theory

I have a new theory on life.

It goes like this: "If you just sit and take what life gives you, all you get handed is a big bucket of suck. But, if you get out there and make things happen for yourself, you get good things you can use to water down the suck.

This idea came to me this summer. I was in the car, on my way to the river at something like 6:30 in the morning. I was so glad to be escaping my life and getting to the river for the day, or the weekend, or whatever it was. And I realized that if it wasn't for whitewater kayaking, the past year or so would have been just about unbearable. Kayaking gave me new friends, new skills, and new confidences. Most importantly though, it gave me a much needed distraction from all that was (is?) going on in my life: dad dramas, health dramas, dad health dramas, friend dramas, pay-cut drama, job drama and of course, boy drama.

The only things that have ever been handed to me for free are raw deals. Nobody just hands out the good stuff. And if they are, they aren't handing it to me. Or anyone I know. I've kept my sanity, and figured out how to make myself happy by actively doing things that make me happy. Ok, well, the black eye didn't make me happy, but it did give me a hell of a story to fill the gaps at dinner parties. And that makes other people happy.

Yeah, I'm going through a tough time right now, with the headaches and the elder care issues, but its nothing compared to what other people go through, and nothing compared to what some of my friends are going through right now. And, despite all the suckage right now, I've still got the boats loaded on the car and ready to go, whenever I get the chance. And that definitely helps water down the suck.

2 comments:

DocJohn said...

I shared your theory of suck with a half dozen colleagues and we all agree -- Susan's Theory of Suck is a good description of many of our lives. Congratulations! Now we just need to write it up for a journal...

Ms Behaviour said...

Hey, that's a great philosophy. I'm going to remember that when the work suck drama flares up again.